By: Courtney Dabney
Over the past few years, much has been written about “discovering the why behind what we do.” And while I believe that understanding our motivations is core to what inspires us to persevere in the face of opposition, I also believe there’s an opposite force at work that’s equally as powerful: self-limiting beliefs.
President Theodore Roosevelt framed this concept very eloquently when he said: “If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your troubles, you wouldn’t sit for a month.”
So why are we so often responsible for “kicking ourselves in the pants,” killing our dreams, and focusing on what could go wrong instead of what may go right?
In my experience as a serial entrepreneur and now as an executive coach, I am more convinced than ever that we are conditioned from birth to find the negative in almost every situation. Allow me to illustrate:
Your child is playing basketball for the first time in a different town. You arrive there an hour before the game but don’t know where the high school gym is located. Your GPS is on the fritz, so you pull into a convenience store and ask the person behind the counter for directions. They say, “Just go down Main Street for three blocks and turn left at the red light.”
Think about that. Why is the light always red? Have you ever had someone tell you, “Go down to the green light and turn”? No? How come? Obviously, the light is green sometimes, or traffic would never move through it.
The answer is that we are trained to mainly pay attention to the things that stop us. Things like red lights, criticism, pain, anger, conflict, loss, fatigue, and on and on.
So, how can we reverse some of these ingrained negative perceptions and behaviors to allow our best ideas and motivations to drive us forward in life?
Here is what I believe:
Taking all of these things into consideration, here is my question to you: What is holding you back?
If already you know, allow me to encourage you to step boldly into a process that will help you move past it into a more positive and productive life.
If you don’t know, please contact me, and I will help you find the right person to help figure it out.
Either way, remember that there are a lot of folks praying and cheering for your success – including me!
Tony Ford is an award-winning entrepreneur with a history of starting and growing industry-leading companies. He now helps other businesses grow and sell their companies and was program director for the 2017 and 2018 FW Inc. Entrepreneur of Excellence awards program. He writes this column for each issue of FW Inc. [email protected]
By: Courtney Dabney